Change happens when there is self-reflection.
Change happens when there is true empathy.
A Narcissist would never take accountability to change because in their delusional minds nothing is ever their mistake and everything is someone else’s fault. Even if they behave badly and throw rage tantrums like a four year old , in their minds that is justified and they feel entitled to be treated in a special way by everyone. They feel entitled to your never ending kindness and forgiveness.
Narcissists are known to flip the script and pretend to be victims in the problems that they themselves had created. This is done with so much superficial charm that no one would even have an inkling about their true insidious nature behind closed doors.
So what happens to the real victims of their bad behaviour and covert manipulation and emotional abuse ? The real victims end up with self doubt , in therapy trying to figure out what is wrong with themselves , feeling not good enough , broken from inside out , dealing with the smear campaigns against them that has been spread by the Narcissists , struggling with complex post trauma stress disorder C-PTSD and dealing with a host of physical and mental health issues as an aftermath to being exposed to the chronic mis-treatment and emotional abuse.
Narcissistic abuse is “soul rape” and as crude as that sounds that is how horrific it really is.
There are no two sides to the story – there is the truth and then there is the lies that the Narcissist would spread to protect their own image in society. It is a battle that you can never win and the only way to find your peace again is to distance yourself from them, dis-engage from their never ending toxicity.
Most of my clients are struggling to understand how such toxic people can go on about their lives with zero remorse or apologies for their bad behaviour. I tell them that you can’t expect the basics of human decency from someone who does not even know kindergarten manners and someone who thinks they are above everyone else.
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Ramya Shripathi
Activate.you
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